HOW TO BUY A WEDDING DRESS WITHOUT LOSING YOUR COOL.
Its fair to say I've taken hundreds, maybe even thousands of bridal appointments over the years, so believe me when I say I've seen it all - the good, the bad, the tears and the tantrums! I've witnessed every kind of family dynamic you can imagine, so here's my best advice on how to shop for your wedding dress and retain your sanity. (Brace yourself -there will be no sugar coating.)
I'll start with the easy ones to slide us in gently.
It seems obvious, but it needs saying - wear decent underwear!! Not only is there a chance someone will see you in it (yes the assistant will have to help you in and out of the dresses) but we all know what difference a good pair of spanx can do. Keep your colours neutral and go for knickers that you would would normally wear with a dress - whether thats a seam free thong or granny pants, as long as it keeps you VPL free and you feel confident in them. I've lost count how many times I've heard, "I wish I had worn my strapless bra/big pants/different pants as I'm distracted by my bra strap/VPL/tummy etc....you catch my drift?
Now it might seem like this is me trying to guilt you all into not being late when you book in at Archive 12, but it's as much for your benefit I swear! As with most bridal shops you get a limited time slot (1 hour with us) and appointments are booked back to back. So if you are late it will only eat into your own time. I've seen so many girls arrive totally rushed and flustered while looking at dresses because they were late. It's not conducive to wedding dress shopping or the chilled out vibe I like there to be, so plan ahead, double check your route and don't be late - okay?
3. BRING NICE PEOPLE
Simple as that.
DO NOT bring your mum if you know she will be tricky. DO NOT bring half your family. DO NOT bring your jealous cousin. Come on your own if you have to.
Who you bring wedding dress shopping should be as carefully selected as your guest list! ONLY bring those who will fully support your choices and will say ONLY NICE THINGS. That last bit is really important. you wouldn't believe some of the crap I've had to listen to over the years. Sometimes I bite my tongue so hard I wonder if I will be able to continue with the appointment. It's not worth the tears, the drama, or the humiliation to bring these people along, no matter what they say or whatever their relationship to you!! Its your day, it's your dress, and you are the only one who knows how the dress makes you FEEL, and that's what really matters.
4. CHECK SIZES BEFORE HAND
This can be a really tricky subject I know, but again I'm saying it to help preserve your own sanity and to help make wedding dress shopping the joyful experience it should be. Do your research and check about sample sizes before you book in. Sample dresses are not always going to be a 14, some stores they may be smaller. You wouldn't normally shop in a store where nothing fits and you won't be able to get an "idea" of the style if proportionally it's not right. It's not worth the heartache - you should feel like a goddess when wedding dress shopping, so just double check before you go that the store has sizes that will be right for your size/height.
5. AVOID PINTEREST.
Maybe it's easy for me to say this as Pinterest wasn't around when I was getting married. what I mean is don't get too bogged down with specifics before you have even tried anything on! Unless you plan on having a dress designed for you it's bonkers to have too many restrictions before you start. ("I'm looking for ballerina length, 3/4 sleeves, lace but not too lacey, open back with a v neck and a detachable train" someone said this to me, FACT) - Yes of course you might prefer a sleeve to sleeveless, you might be desperate for that chance to wear a train - thats all cool, but try to have an open mind when you go shopping. Especially with our vintage collection, we have so many unusual shapes and styles that it's madness to discount them without even trying them on. Use your time wisely and try on as any varying shapes as you can. I always say its good to try the things that are "wrong" as it helps you be more certain when something is "right".
6. DONT EXPECT THE LIGHTENING BOLT
This may even be the most important piece of advice I can give you. Not everyone has the "this is the one!" moment! Don't get me wrong, it does happen, but not very often! I'd say most clients have to sleep on it or at least take some time to mull it over. It's often the case that 2 or 3 dresses will be stunning - then it's down to you to decide which one feels like the MOST YOU. It's fucking difficult! You are basically questioning your entire personality and manifesting it in a dress. so I say this, forget what you look like, and go on what you FEEL like. Personally for me, it's all in the body language. You can tell when a girl puts on a gown that makes her feel amazing, there is usually a lot of prancing around, swishing, and not wanting to take it off. (This is the point where you should zone out everyone else in the room and use your gut instinct to help you decide.)
Choose a dress that makes you feel beautiful, thats comfortable and most importantly that will have you waking up on your wedding day busting to put it on.
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If you have any questions or want any more advice on buying a wedding dress please get in touch. I'm happy to help a gal in need.
May the force be with you, Claire xx